The last couple of days I have been tired around dinner time and have required to take a quick power nap around dinner time. I am so tired that I can not keep my eyes open so I take a quick nap and then I am good for the rest of the night. I have been getting up early between 4 and 5am where I need to go to the washroom. During this time I have been also eating because my parents gave us a ridiculous amount of food on Monday and it is some of my favorite. My weight has been stable during this time which is nice. When I look at myself in the mirror I still think that I look a bit thin and like a skeleton, and I can not see much weight gain, but around my stomach it seems that there is a bit more, I am still getting a bit of a rash around the areas where I am taped up. Mentally things are much better and hopefully this new treatment goes well next week. I did not think that I was going to be seeing my oncologist every 2 weeks, but I have an appointment for October 5th, unless I misheard and it is for November 5th. Generally when it is that far out though they do not call and send me a physical letter. We have not heard back from Spain yet about whether the drug that they gave me contained alcohol or not, but we suspect that is the reason why I did not do so well.
I signed into my bank account today and I normally check our credit card purchases to make sure everything is ok. Mel spends hundreds of thousands of dollars on beauty products so I like to make sure that I keep an eye on that so we do not need to take out a 5th mortgage to pay for all of Korean products she purchases. Xavier’s bank account is linked to mine, and Olivier is linked to Mel because I had set his up and Mel set up Oliviers. I do not care how the kids spend their money, but I did notice that his account had a couple of hundred dollars less than I had anticipated. Looking at the account he had a bunch of instacart purchases, and i asked Mel if she thought that he was buying things from instacart. She did not think he would so we immediately thought fraud. I sent him a message to ask and waited until he was on the bus for him to reply. The purchases were legit and he made the purchases for his friend to hide it from his mother as a gift. All of the charges on the account were legit and he had also spend his money at school to buy fruit. Xavier does not like spending his money so him spending money threw us off a bit. If the money was coning out of Olivier’s account it would not have thrown so many red flags, but coming from Xavier it did. We confirmed it and we explained that we did not care how he spent his money we just wanted to make sure it was him. This lead to a discussion about alignment with your partner when you get married ti make suer that the two of you were in agreement. Mel and I do not really monitor each others spending, but we also do not normally spend a lot on things. If iti s over $500 we normally discuss it with each other, but it is more of an FYI than anything. For the renovations she has spent a lot and I then see all of these large charges on our card. The procedure is if it is from a company that I have not heard of, or it ir is a weird amount I normally just ask her about it. Thankfully we have been together for so long and she knows that I am just verifying that she made the purchase and she does not feel judge or the need to justify why she bought something. She knows that I do not really care what she buys. Her tastes and mine do not necessarily align so she will on occasion ask me my opinion on something and a lot of times I tell her buy it but I do not like the colour. Lately she has stopped asking for my opinion as she knows my preference are either bright, pastels or neutral. Mel loves brown and greens and I dislike those tones.
We had to do a Costco run today and we spent a significant amount of money. Over the last 5 years Mel has had to take on more of a share of running the house compared to me. I do not always know where things are but Mel generally does. I was searching for a credit card that we do not use anymore and thought it was in our drawer. While going through it I found a book of coupons that I gave her for a birthday when we probably first got married as it has her married name on it. It is a ridiculous book with things like, good for one home cooked meal, or unlimited bras for the rest of your life. Things that do not matter. This is what sparked the conversation with the kids about making sure you are with a partner that has the same principles as you do, because if one is frugal and the other is not, it may cause issues. The kids have seen that neither of us try and control the others spending so the coupons are a complete joke. When we go shopping, Mel loads everything into the cart and into the van, while I go sit in the seat. I always am curious if people judge that she does everything while i sit in the chair and scroll. Mel said that I do a lot still and need to conserve my energy and I replied and cook for you as well. I can taste a lot of things, but right now there is sitll a lot that i can not taste. It annoys me because i will make something delciious and can not taste a thing. Right not tomatoes are super tasty for me, and i can real;y taste fresh tomatoes. I have had a craving for tomato sandwiches so I have been eating those with bacon, because I can taste the salt. Household is split right now probably 90/10 and if things go well it will be a 75/25 split. I offered to drive her this winter to work so she does not need to walk 10 minutes from her parking to her building as she will get dropped off right at her door. I think it is the least that i can do considering all that she does for me.
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