I need to better set my expectations. I know what the limitations are for my food intake but I keep on trying to push it a bit more each time. Yesterday I realized that soda crackers do not sit well. It is a pity because I really like them, but I can not eat them. I had some earlier in the day yesterday with my chowder and ended up vomiting. Last night I wanted to have some cheese and crackers and we had no more crackers so I tried the soda crackers. I had a couple and realized that they sat heavy so stopped right away. For portion control I would often use our small ramekins but I need to try and slowly stretch my stomach out. I need to remember either 75grams or 1/4th of a cup to be safe and I will be fine. It is difficult because I feel better and think I can handle more but I can not. If I want more I need to space out the food more and make sure that I eat food that is easily digestible. I will start making my own bread as that sits far better than when we purchase it. I had wanted to try and make salt bread so I will give it a try.
Yesterday Olivier had some friends over. One of the parents for the friends called if a play date and his friend was all embarrassed and said it was a hang. So Mel and I have been teasing him calling it a playdate since then. Sometimes Mel can be fun and goes along with some of the ridiculousness. His friends were nice and one of them said our house looked all modern and he loved our kitchen. He also noticed that I one of the dials for the range was on, but it does not really matter as the induction will only be active if there is a pot or pan on. Olivier’s friends are all nice and he tends to stay away from kids who are trouble makers or cause trouble. He does not like kids who bully other kids or do not treat other kids nice. Mel and I chatted about this before and we both said that at times in our lives we had sketchy friends but they are fleeting and do not normally stay in your life because you get tired of the drama.
An interesting story came up yesterday with the friend of Olivier. He has some sisters and one is younger than Xavier. This is where I know Xavier is my son. Shockingly he convinced this girl that he only spoke Korean and had his friends corroborate it. I am not sure why he chose Korean as we do not speak it. But Olivier’s friends sister started trying to learn Korean on Duolingo so she could talk to Xavier. Olivier’s friend teased his sister that she was doing it because she likes Xavier but she denied it. She could have just thought that he was foreign and has difficulty interacting with people and wanted to be nice. What it tells me regardless though is that they are a nice family. The kid was well behaved and polite. The boys were playing and some innocent shenanigans were happening and at one point he tried to call a truce and made the two other boys promise to the truce and swear on their mother. Mel and I laughed as clearly that as something precious to him and Mel and I thought that it probably did not mean as much to Olivier to make a promise like that. When I was young I could easily hang out with friends. With the kids today it is so much more of an ordeal where we need to plan things and then transport the kids to each other. So far with all of the friends that our kids have met we have liked them all.
This morning Olivier and Xavier were being trouble and harassing each other. Mel threatened each with punishment and as soon as Xavier heard his punishment he smartened up. Olivier pushed it a bit more. Mel than made comments to Xavier and he replied with a smart ass remark and then told Mel that he was going to spend the rest of the day on the edge of the line. Olivier asked what that meant and Mel told him to ask his brother. We need to remember that our kids are a reflection of us and the trouble that we provided to our parents will come back to haunt us.
Xavier is riding the limits of causing trouble and I need to be on the limit of pushing myself to increase my caloric intake. If Xavier does too far his punishment is either no hockey or no working out. For me it is vomiting. We will see if we can both stay on the proper side of the line.
QHM