I am still not use to how easily fatigued I still get. People who have had a c section or have gone through it with a partner I think understand. Motion of moving up and down repeatedly that activates my core fatigues me over time. Yesterday we spent time unpacking things for the kitchen and by the end of the day I was so tired. Even this morning my body still felt the effects of yesterday as I could feel the strain in my muscles. It also does not help that I can not eat as much as other people. I have managed to consistently eat 7+ meals a day, so I have that going for me at least.
Today we cooked a meal in our kitchen with our range and I really enjoy having a proper convection oven where you can put multiple things in at once. There is a difference between European convection and some of the convection ovens sold here. The European ones have the element behind the fan and the heat is circulated like that. A lot of the convections available here have the elements at the top and the bottom with a fan that then circulates the air accordingly. Both actually have advantages and disadvantages and our range does both where one is just a conversation but the other one has an option to heat from the back fan element, just the top or bottom with or without fans. The only thing that 8 wish I had was a steam oven option for baking bread but there are ways to get around that. As more of the pots and pans that I ordered arrive, Mel noticed that I bought a bunch by a brand called Made In. Mel laughed because a lot of influencers and people she watches videos on love the brand. They are a direct to consumer brand and they have some nice things. They are cheaper than All Clad with similar performance and I ordered specifically the pieces that I wanted. The Hestan and Demeyere with sealed edges were nice but I had a hard time justifying the price of it. The benefit was that you could put them into the dishwasher. The ones I bought can technically go in, but it is recommended to handwash. They can only handle heat up to 800 degrees. Mel sometimes forgets that she is cooking something on the stove and may be able to hit those temperatures. I the average household, the female’s do the majority of cooking. Our house is dominated by make cooks, so I chose most of the cooking related items in our kitchen.
Mel and I were planning on taking a day trip to Toronto to look at some things, but my sister said she would go and pick things up for us if we needed. I am grateful for all of the help my sister has offered. The first time I had cancer during COVID she offered to move back to Sudbury and help out Mel and the boys. I know that if I asked her now she would drop everything in a heart beat and come help out. My family is rather interesting in the fact that there is a lot of weird dynamics amongst the older generations and some of it has sort of spilled over to the younger generation. For at least my relatives in Ontario we always agreed to not let the dynamics of our parents influence our generation. My cousins from my father’s side are closer in age to my parents and I am closer in age to their kids. We try and get together whenever we get the opportunity. When we do get the chance to go to Toronto area my sister always meets up with us. That is probably why she is my favorite sister. Out of all my biological sisters no one comes close. Incidentally my parents and one of my uncle and aunts are brother and sisters. Two brothers married two sisters. I am grateful that no matter what I ask of my sister she would help me out without drama and without a second thought. She would not expect anything in return. It is interesting because she and I only really got close when she moved away and lived on her own in different cities. She would walk home and when she did she would call me and no matter what I was doing I would chat with her the whole time so she felt safe. As I was normally only 4 to 6 hrs away from her, if anything happened all she had to do was hold out while I figured out a way to get there to save her. If I had half of the work effort and dedication that she had I would have achieved so much more. She put me to shame. Luckily Xavier inherited her genes and follows her footsteps with her intelligence. Her excellence in academics is something that he strives for as well. He also speaks with her constantly about investing and she is an awesome role model for him. I love all that she has done for me and for the kids. They like to call her all of the time and get mad at her when she does not answer in the middle of the day. She just teaches so why can she not reply and answer trivial questions.
I am quite blessed that Mel has such a good relationship with my sister. It is not to the extent of my relationship with my sister in law, but it is close. They are both serious about ruining my fun and trying to make my life miserable. Apparently both do not like it when I leave things lying around haphazardly, but I just do it to show my love. My love of ignoring their made up rules and acting like a typical male. I am giving them the opportunity to show sibling affection by yelling at me or Mel fulfilling her wife duties by telling me to clean up after myself. It is my duty as the older brother and preoccupied husband to give them a purpose in life. So when I drop my keys next to the bowl where they are supposed to go, it is because I do not want to rob them of the opportunity to show their displeasure.
If things go according to plan tomorrow I will hear about my care plan and I can start treatment this week instead of Dec 3rd. Hopefully I will not be as fatigued this week. I realized that everything over the course of the week is cumulative and I can not really push myself 7 days at the moment as I am still regaining my strength.
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